Mirroring 09/23/2010
 

First we go into their world, then we inspire them to want to come to ours!

By: Julie Sando
Your children have sensory systems that are not like ours.

They are doing their very best to do all the things we ask of them, but when it comes down to it, it is very challenging when they are experiencing the world differently from us.

One of the major techniques that sets Autistically Inclined apart from most other therapies is that we believe their self-stimulatory behaviors are necessary to organizing their sensory systems so that they can connect with us at a deeper level.   

Therefore, when our kids line up objects, we get our own objects to line up.  When they are running in circles across the room, we do the same thing. 

As we are joining them in their activity we are sincerely trying to experience what they could possibly be getting out of the experience. 

This helps us gather information about how we can offer them that same input.  It also sends them the message that we understand them and totally accept them for who they are. 

When they feel accepted, they are more likely to WANT to connect with us.  And when they have organized their systems, they are more likely to be ABLE to connect with us.

Our kids are also craving predictability because they are experiencing the world in very different ways.  People are amongst the least predictable things in the world.  Objects are very predictable and controllable.  It is no wonder they gravitate toward objects and away from deep relationships with people. 

By joining them in their world and teaching through play when they are connection with us, we are becoming more predictable and easier to be with.  Who wouldn't want to play when you have complete control?!

Try it out. 
Create your own exciting experience when doing what your child loves to do and submit what happened when you did.
Your story may be an inspiration that helps others create that connection with their child.
 


Comments

heidy
02/28/2011 11:55am

We love being with our child and joining them. It definitely creates a bond, and when you want them to know you love and accept them in all ways. Even the most unusual repetitous behavior can be a bonding experience.

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